Recent Posts

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

About Wedding Dresses

As a kid I think all girls dream of their Cinderella ballgown wedding dresses, and I might have been one of them too. As I grew up, I learned that it just wasn't my style. Attending two of my sisters weddings have made me more in tune with what I want in my own wedding (basically none of what they had), and that includes my vision for a wedding dress. I will admit that I didn't put too much thought into it at the time. Now that I'm engaged, I cannot help but to think about my dream dress.

Remember Hilary Duff from Cinderella Story? This is the typical strapless ballgown wedding dress that I want to avoid. It is so cookie cutter, and I don't want to look like a slight variation of every other bride out there.

After a whole year of being engaged, I'm pretty much still in the first stages of looking for my wedding dress. I look at websites and a few magazines, and I end up being even more confused. I have always wanted a simple dress, nothing too poofy or cookie cutter. Then this beauty came to me at a sample sale at Goodwill in Pennsauken, NJ...

trying on the vintage dress at Goodwill in Pennsauken, NJ

Look how gorgeous the dress is! I found it on the "used dresses" rack, and it was really a beautiful vintage piece. I only paid $24.99 for the dress, and I was so excited about my first real wedding purchase. It fit perfectly! Of course then I started to wonder if this is really what I envision myself wearing on my wedding day. I went back and forth on the idea. It is a used dress after all, and someone else had worn this amazing dress on their own wedding day. Is it unlucky to wear a dress worn by someone else? I couldn't help but to wonder if others would look down upon me for this silly superstition. I showed pictures to others, and they complimented on how beautiful the dress looked. I was convinced that it was for me again. Then I finally concluded that it might not be the "one." It just wasn't the dress I always wanted for my wedding. Hubby convinced me that it was worth the purchase, and we will definitely put it to good use. I am looking forward to a mini photo shoot with the stunning vintage wedding dress.

featured in the Courier Post with the vintage wedding dress

Now I'm back at the beginning. With the wedding still too far down the road to see, I put aside the thoughts of finding a wedding dress anytime soon. The experience at Goodwill did make me want to go to bridal boutiques just to take a gander at what might catch my eye. A few things got in the way (a 5 week trip to China & Hong Kong), and I never did make an appointment.

Fast forward to today, and with my luck I found this pretty number...

Vivienne Tam Lace Tie Waist Dress on Gilt Groupe

Let me give you a little background of how fate brought me to this dress. I signed up for Gilt Group earlier this year thanks to Mrs. Bee from the oh so famous wedding website Here's a little more information about the site...

"Gilt Groupe provides access, by invitation only, to Men’s, Women’s and Children’s coveted fashion and luxury brands at prices up to 70% off retail. Each sale lasts 36 hours and features hand selected styles from a single designer."

I get emails about their daily sales every weekday around noon. Most of the good stuff run out fairly quickly, but that doesn't bother me. I cannot afford the amazing clothing and jewelry, even at the discounted sample sale price. I just take a look every now and then and drool all over my keyboard. Since returning from China, I have taken a break from even visiting the site. It's unhealthy to be staring at such beautiful fashionable clothing out of my price range. Today was a tad different, and the name Vivienne Tam sparked my interest. Her clothes have been featured on Gilt Groupe before, but somehow I just needed to click the link. After browsing around, I clicked and saw this...

a screen shot of the site and of course the perfect dress

Of course the story is supposed to end right about now. The dress is out of my price range at $208 (but don't forget the original price of $550, which results in a $342 savings). Well pretty much everything and anything is out of my price range with me being unemployed. I keep staring at it thinking that I can justify the purchase. It is the perfect wedding dress, and it screamed "buy me!" It really does go well with the low key ceremony that I want for the wedding, and it's so adorable. It fits the look that I am going for, and I can't help but to envision myself wearing it down the aisle (well the grassy aisle for an outdoor ceremony).

It gets better. I researched more information about the designer Vivienne Tam. I recognize her for the famous HP mini notebook that she designed with that vibrant bright pattern. Judie from Gear Diary also posted a great entry about her experience with Vivienne during fashion week. A little wiki search pretty much told me that I was meant to buy one of her dresses. We happen to be name twins, and her full name is Yin Yok Tam. She was born in Guangzhou, China and moved to Hong Kong when she was 3 years old. My family is from the province of Guangdong, and my mother was born and raised in the city of Guangzhou. So we share the same name and have roots in the same province in China. How amazing is that? Coincidence? I think not. I think all of these signs are telling me to buy the dress. I would be supporting a fellow Asian (even by the same name), and the dress is absolutely gorgeous. Just take a look again...

view from the back

lace details in the front

lace details in the back

I think I may have fallen in love with my first wedding dress candidate. It's so easy to justify the purchase. Here are my reasons in bullet format (cause that's how I roll):
  • I love the designer Vivienne Tam
  • I even share the same name as the designer: Yin
  • We're from the same province in China
  • I would be supporting a fellow Asian fashion designer
  • Fate definitely brought me to Gilt Group today
  • Dress is just amazing and perfect for the wedding
  • It is much cheaper than any alternative that I can find right now
  • I would be saving $342 from retail price
Well with a list of all the pros, unfortunately there has to be a list of cons...
  • I'm broke and cannot afford a wedding dress
  • My bank account isn't at an all time high
  • Oh yeah I'm unemployed
See how all the cons are related to my lack of money? Well that's the only thing stopping me from purchasing the dress right now. I have it in my cart ready to click on purchase. I wonder how long I can stop myself from going through with it. I secretly hope that I will give in before the dress is sold out or when it is no longer available.


Post a Comment